Archive | August, 2010

My Confession

30 Aug

I have come to a point in my life where I have come to realize that I should not be ashamed of who I am.  I know I can count on the support of my wife and three boys when I announce to the world what my closest gay, lesbian and bisexual friends have suspected but never confronted me with. At a point in every person’s life, one has to look deeply into the mirror of one’s soul and decide one’s unique truth in the world, not as we may want to see it or hope to see it, but as it is; yes, I am a heterosexual.

I have known since I was a small boy. I was always attracted to the opposite sex. I was always attracted to a pretty face with those breath-taking smiles and beautiful eyes. As I grew older I noticed my growing attraction to feminine features such as softness, a curvy figure, firm buttocks and breast. I was always more attracted to the wholesome girl-next-door. whose features were not exaggerated, more subtle and sedate. The higher pitch of a woman’s voice always catches my attention (unless it is my wife wanting me to do something.) To this day I cannot resist looking at an attractive woman.

But is gets worse. Not only am I a heterosexual, I am a monogamous heterosexual. I look but don’t touch.

I cannot help what I am, no matter how embarrassing.  Like Popeye, I am what I am – and that is all that I am.

I am so relieved to have unburdened this at last.


Why do we still have Nerds?

29 Aug

The other day I was reading an article about autism, creativity and evolution. (I cannot find the link now and that pisses me off.) Well that was the general gist of it.

Certain axioms were presented, not explicitly stated as such but as common knowledge as if this was self-evident to everybody.

The first of these axioms was that highly functioning/intelligent autism, or Asperser’s syndrome males comprehend and grasp technology far better than the normal neurological types. This unique skill is hypothesized to be a major innovator of technological progress from early mankind onward. (As a side issue and may be not in the same article, normal neurological types demonstrate a remarkable ability to form cooperative units to achieve a given task that an individual would find impossible or great difficulty performing, such as moving a large fallen tree off the road.

The second axiom is that these guys are total nerds and have a terrible time interacting with the opposite sex and therefore there must be some mechanism to preserver their genetic information otherwise they would die off. The hypothesis being that they increased the survival rate of their relatives who shared part of their genetic information, but they, themselves were unsuccessful in reproducing.

Well are these axioms valid?  I have my doubts but argument sake I will work from this premise because I think the conclusions from the second axiom is false.

I will accept the total nerd premise and problems with social interactions, but does this lead to less reproductive success?  The problem here is the assumption that our current Western liberal situation where the sexes compete for mates and they have the choice in determining who they will partner with is false.  From Arab friends who are first generation Americans, they have far more leeway than their cousins back home but still the family is heavily involved.  For an example, this ethnically Arab cardiology fellow who physically resembled Gabriel Iglesias and was a quite shy man had a gorgeous wife. In my usual subtle self I ask him something along the lines of  “Oh my god you wife is gorgeous. How did YOU ever meet her?” He promptly replied that his mother arranged the marriage. <startled pause>

He has seen his future bride years ago at a cousin’s wedding. He commented to his mother that her would like to meet her.  So his mother found out who she was from the cousin and went to her mother and made the proposition. They met several times and talked, and then the fathers met. Once they had they had determined that the others would make a good spouse for their child, the presented the situation to them. Then they started courting.

So this got me thinking, when I was younger, I always was a much bigger hit with the parents, particularly the mothers then I ever was with the daughters.  I can easily imagine that the social situation was such that the parental influence was as great as it is in Arab society I would not have had so many lonely weekends.

So what is more the norm in human history, where the suitor had to seduce his mate or one where he had to impress the parents? My hypothesis is that the family experience was that the nerd would be a kind, reliable and good provider and came from a “good” families, therefore that became the major factor overriding her personal preference from the would-be bride from an extremely desirable to an acceptable man, from their perspective.



23 Aug

Strange, I can find all sorts of interesting things for other people to blog about, but for me I have twaddle.

I should start thinking of my blog self as another person, or pretend I am having a conversation.

If I had money or treats, I would reward interesting/helpful comments. Insulting me does not fall into either category, from my perspective. And I am the one with the pseudo-treats, which you aren’t getting – SO THERE!